Mitzi Bockmann, a certified life coach in New York, USA, highlights 5 phrases high-EQ women often use to foster positive relationships.
"Thank you."
Bockmann once encountered close friends, a couple with three young children, at a fair. The husband was single-handedly managing the children while his wife shopped. When Bockmann asked, "Has she thanked you yet?", the man shook his head.
According to the expert, many wives assume their husband's contributions are obligatory and forget to express gratitude. However, everyone needs acknowledgment, even if their actions aren't perfect.
Expressing thanks when a husband helps with chores, picks up the kids, or listens attentively not only makes him feel appreciated but also strengthens the marital bond.
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Illustrative photo: Yourtango
"I love you."
Bockmann believes many couples stop saying "I love you" not because they've fallen out of love, but because they assume their partner already knows. However, not hearing those words regularly can lead to feelings of coldness and distance.
According to Bockmann, expressions of love are crucial for maintaining connection, especially during challenging times in a marriage. A 2019 study published in the journal Plos one also cautioned that words without corresponding actions can indicate a lack of emotional maturity.
"You're attractive."
Bockmann notes that both men and women have insecurities about their appearance. A compliment, even during mundane moments like cooking, fixing something, or after a shower, can make a husband feel loved and desired.
A simple phrase like "You look great" reminds him that you're still attracted to him, regardless of time or circumstance. This is especially important for men, who often face societal pressures regarding their appearance.
"Have a good time."
Bockmann shared a personal anecdote about her husband training for a marathon. With young children, while outwardly supportive, she resented having to shoulder more responsibilities. This later caused significant strain on their marriage.
According to the expert, genuine happiness when a husband pursues personal interests, rather than reluctant acceptance, is a sign of high EQ. Sincere support makes him feel secure, trusted, and not controlled.
If there are concerns, expressing them openly to find solutions together is better than silent resentment, which can lead to a dead end. Research from the Gottman Institute also shows that supporting individual pursuits strengthens marriages.
"I'm proud of you."
Men often link confidence to achievements, while women focus on emotional connection. According to Bockmann, having their efforts and accomplishments acknowledged, even small ones, is deeply meaningful for men.
Conversely, frequent criticism or dismissal of a husband's efforts can damage the relationship. Bockmann advises women to offer constructive feedback without mockery and to express pride when their husband makes progress or contributes to the family.
"Men don't need grand gestures for happiness. They need to feel loved, respected, and understood", Bockmann said.
Nhat Minh (Yourtango)
