American psychologist Zayda Slabbekoorn has identified habits of intelligent people that help them eliminate toxic relationships and live more positive, healthier lives.

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Never complaining

According to a study by Stanford University, continuous complaining can harm the brain, affecting mood, memory, and cognitive abilities. Additionally, complaining fosters negative thinking, impacting mental and emotional health, as well as social relationships.

Intelligent individuals often handle situations swiftly or seek support and shared experiences to resolve issues effectively.

Ending energy-draining relationships

While intelligent people may not abandon relationships during challenging periods or conflicts, they will end them when they see no hope for growth. If they experience consistent disrespect, belittlement, or manipulation, they're not afraid to end a relationship and invest their time and energy in self-renewal.

Conversely, less discerning individuals often build relationships based on attention-seeking and codependency. They are less likely to set boundaries or sever ties. They may exhibit manipulative tendencies, exploiting others' insecurities to achieve their desires.

Willingness to say "no"

Dr. Susan Biali Haas, a mental health professional with over 20 years of experience, suggests that intelligent people are often willing to step outside their comfort zones and embrace new experiences. They are not afraid to express their thoughts and establish healthy boundaries by saying "no" to things that make them uncomfortable.

In contrast, those who are insecure or emotionally immature often attempt to control others' behavior through toxic actions. For instance, they may try to please others for their own comfort, craving joy, intimacy, and security, but are willing to inflict harm when their goals aren't met.

A yearning for deep conversations

Research published by the American Psychological Association indicates that while many people desire deeper connections in communication and relationships, not everyone can participate in or maintain them.

Intelligent people often possess the intellectual and emotional capacity to initiate conversations based on trust, honesty, acceptance, and understanding. They avoid superficial chatter and create more space for profound connection.

Doing things for oneself, not for approval

Not being concerned with others' approval is a key mindset of intelligent people. They act for their own growth, comfort, and peace, rather than seeking external validation or scrutiny.

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