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Giving each other space is crucial. Psychologist Mitzi Bockmann advises that during marital conflicts, the first step is to give each other space to calm down and reflect. If your partner seems upset, avoid bothering them and allow them to relax and regain their composure.

"This sounds simple, but it's actually quite difficult. It requires partners to be perceptive, observe each other's emotions, and adapt accordingly," Bockmann explains.

Don't dwell on every little thing. When your partner's actions or words bother you, instead of immediately criticizing them, wait until you've calmed down and then address the issue tactfully. For instance, saying "You're driving me crazy with your coffee slurping" can make your partner feel attacked. Instead, gently express how their actions make you feel and politely ask them to refrain.

"Holding onto resentment will create distance between you. Communicate and offer suggestions to resolve issues effectively, ensuring both of you are satisfied," Bockmann suggests.

Understand the root cause. Before blaming or confronting your spouse, consider the underlying reasons for your feelings. Women are often irritable when overwhelmed with childcare, family events, or daily housework. During these times, take a moment to assess whether your partner is the source of your frustration or if other factors are contributing. This approach can help couples minimize tension and foster harmony.

Maintain physical touch. A hug can speak volumes. One of the hardest things to do when your spouse is upsetting you is to touch them. But it's one of the best things you can do to reconnect. "When your partner has calmed down, offer a comforting hug or a gesture of affection, even for just 10 seconds," Bockmann advises. Physical touch is vital for connection. Your spouse is someone you've committed to loving for life, through thick and thin. They have their own struggles, so offer comfort and soothe their emotions.

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