Speaking ill of your in-laws

When you marry, you become part of your spouse's family. Research shows that couples experiencing continuous tension with in-laws have a higher risk of divorce. A 2021 study from the US National Library of Medicine indicated that in-law issues are a predictor of marital breakdown over time.

Therefore, maintaining respectful silence isn't just polite; it can prevent marital problems. Even if you don't get along with your in-laws, keeping negative opinions to yourself avoids conflict and arguments.

Using "divorce" as a threat

Research suggests that mentioning divorce, even jokingly, diminishes feelings of security and trust in a relationship. A long-term study revealed that couples who threaten divorce during everyday arguments experience increased stress and a higher risk of separation.

Saying "I told you so"

According to relationship psychologist Dr. John Gottman, the phrase "I told you so" during marital disagreements is often negative and creates conflict. When things don't go as planned, this phrase implies blame and reproach.

Gottman says the happiest couples limit negative communication, avoiding sarcasm and reminders of being right. Fewer negative remarks contribute to a happier relationship for both partners.

Airing your spouse's dirty laundry

Even if your spouse is aware of their flaws, habits, preferences, or talents, respect their privacy. Avoid posting about these on social media or sharing them with friends.

If you have good news or something you're genuinely proud of and want to share, ask your spouse's permission first to avoid conflict.

Infidelity

Research shows infidelity is the most common reason for marriage breakdown. It destroys trust, emotional security, and happiness in relationships. A spouse's betrayal has been proven to cause long-term emotional distress, including depression and feelings of loss of control.

Thanh Thanh (Yourtango)