Good self-awareness
In marriage, the ability to understand and accept oneself plays a key role. When a man can identify and clearly express his thoughts, feelings, or natural urges, he will find it easier to open up and understand his partner.
At the same time, self-awareness also helps the husband be aware of his own negativity, such as defensiveness or disorganization, thereby avoiding blaming others.
Studies show that self-awareness, meaning the ability to understand oneself, not only nurtures vitality and strengthens self-esteem but also brings a sense of happiness.
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Knowing how to communicate
One of the factors that helps men be happy in marriage is the ability to communicate. According to Doctor Fran Walfish, good communication is not just about everyday conversations but also includes the ability to talk about feelings, something seemingly simple but difficult to do.
"During times of disagreement or escalating tension, most people find it difficult to listen without interrupting, judging, blaming, or choosing to remain silent", Walfish explains.
"Learning to face conflict, listen patiently, and find solutions together is what makes the difference between a successful marriage and a broken one".
In other words, communication is the "glue" that binds relationships and helps couples maintain long-term understanding.
Understanding their partner
According to Fran Walfish, a happily married husband doesn't necessarily have to "read his wife's mind", but he takes the time to learn and understand her feelings, reactions, and how she sees the world.
He knows what makes his wife sad, what can make her happy, and more importantly, he is willing to learn from his own mistakes.
"Many of my female patients often complain that their husbands don't understand them," Walfish shares.
"When I invite these husbands to a therapy session, the truth is revealed: they know almost nothing about how women think or feel".
Not dwelling on disappointment
In marriage, as in life, it is difficult to avoid stumbles or failures. The problem is not in "avoiding" these situations, but in how each person faces and overcomes them. Men who are happy in their marriages often have the ability to bounce back from setbacks, not letting themselves get stuck in disappointment for too long.
"In married life, no one can protect themselves from disappointments", Doctor Fran Walfish states.
"The important thing is that the man knows how to equip himself with coping skills, so that he can face difficulties without falling into anger or depression".
Nhat Minh (Yourtango)
