Palmer, formerly of New York, now lives in Utah with her husband, David, who works in advertising. She identifies as a traditional homemaker.
In mid-June, she became an influencer (@courtney_joelle) after launching the "princess treatment" trend. While attracting millions of views, her videos have sparked debate due to her seemingly extreme femininity.
Palmer refuses to tie her shoelaces, waiting for her husband to do it. She avoids eye contact and conversation with waitstaff in restaurants. She also refrains from opening doors, ordering food, or paying the bill, considering these her husband's responsibilities.
She claims these behaviors express her femininity and allow her husband to showcase his masculinity. "It's a form of self-care," she says, "and reflects a longing for the increasingly rare chivalrous man.".
The online community has reacted strongly to Palmer's statements. One commenter described her dining etiquette as rude to waitstaff. However, hundreds of women expressed admiration for her lifestyle.
"It inspires us to demand better treatment from our partners," said Tammy, 25, from New York. "I'm tired of being treated poorly, and her content makes me feel valued." Supporters believe the "princess treatment" lifestyle alleviates pressure in busy lives.
Therapist Genesis Games, founder of Healing Connections in Miami, suggests this lifestyle appeals to women's desire for romance and initiative from their partners.
However, Games cautions that excessive displays of fragility and dependence can harm relationships. She distinguishes between reasonable requests, such as booking dinner reservations, receiving weekly flowers, or having doors opened, and rendering oneself helpless.
Games argues that Palmer's depiction relies on rigid gender roles rooted in patriarchal norms. "Traditional gender roles may suit some," she says, "but they limit flexibility and hurt both genders. Men struggle with emotional expression, and women become overly reliant."
Dating coach Sabrina Zohar agrees. She doesn't endorse the patriarchal undertones of the "princess treatment" trend. The desire for such treatment can create power imbalances, fostering passivity in one partner while encouraging the other to avoid self-reliance.
The trend's core issue lies in its one-sided, unsustainable dynamic, ultimately unsatisfying for both partners.
Games suggests women can adopt a healthier version of the "princess treatment" by making small, meaningful gestures for their partners. They should consider frequency and communicate their expectations.
"Find a balance," she advises. "Avoid extremes that diminish women or make them seem less capable, and stay true to yourselves.".
Ngoc Ngan (Huff Post, NY Post)
