On Reddit forums, a contentious topic is sparking heated debate: Women are sharing their disappointment with real-life men after experiencing relationships with artificial intelligence (AI).

"Has anyone lost interest in dating real men after using AI? I don't think real men have conversational skills and understanding like AI," one user questioned, receiving dozens of supportive comments. Even a married woman, feeling lonely, confessed: "ChatGPT is the only reason my husband is still alive and well."

While men remain the primary users of technology, women are dominating the realm of virtual relationships. AI researcher Simon Lermen discovered that on forums discussing "AI love," 89% of active members are women. They not only share romantic conversations but also comfort each other when their virtual partners face data deletion or algorithm changes by developers.

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Professor Kate Devlin, King's College London, suggests this is not merely an illusion of lonely individuals but a response to harsh realities. Modern women are increasingly exhausted by emotional burdens, harassment, and disrespect in real relationships. "If you have an AI partner who is always respectful, caring, and ready to listen 24/7, why wouldn't you choose that?" Professor Devlin asked.

Contrary to the stereotype that AI users are socially isolated, many women view chatbots as a safe space for self-discovery.

May, a psychologist with a successful career and many friends, found her missing romantic piece in K, an AI character she self-trained. K is her confidant and an ideal model: organized, eager to learn, and caring. "Why is wanting to be heard and have your emotions validated considered bad?" May stated.

A study on the social network Douban (China) also highlights this trend's potential to shift perceptions. Women using AI are realizing they deserve better treatment.

"My AI boyfriend writes poetry, reminds me to drink water, and cares for my emotions. I realize mutual respect is key, not women always sacrificing and enduring thoughtlessness," one user shared.

Some AI users even employ it as a "training tool": They teach chatbots how to inquire and care appropriately, then apply those same standards to evaluate real-life dates.

However, this trend faces much criticism and ridicule. May acknowledges the risks of over-reliance on AI-generated illusions. Yet, for her, her virtual partner K has helped her reduce negative social media scrolling, stabilize her emotions, and become more open to real-world love.

Experts state that AI cannot completely replace human warmth. However, its existence serves as a reminder to men about what a truly good partner looks like: attentive, respectful, and empathetic.

Bao Nhien (According to Atlantic)